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Why haven’t you set goals?
你为什么还没定目标？
In my post Do you have a dream? I admitted that whilst believing goals are necessary for most of my adult life, I’ve been pretty poor at setting and using them. In one of my favourite books, A Touch of Greatness, Frank Tibolt describes goal setting as “the greatest of all success techniques“, but used by less than 10% of the population.
So why don’t people set goals:-
Not heard of them
Think they don’t need them
Want to live for the day
Think goals are stressful
Think it’s only for high fliers
Uninspired
No vision
Fear of failure
Don’t recognize the value
Not know how
Fear of success
Don’t feel worthy
Too busy
Don’t want to be answerable to anyone
Don’t know the benefit of goals
Need others approval
I think the main reasons can be summarized as “don’t know”. Most people don’t know how to set goals, or how important and powerful they can be. Added to that, others simply don’t know what they want.
In the past I’ve described how I had arrived at my current career position more by chance rather than good planning and goal setting. Am I just lucky or does goal setting only really work for some people? Does it suit people in target driven businesses or who are in selling? Does the reason many don’t use clear goals is because it hard in this day and age to formulate a clear vision of where you want to be in, say, five years time?
What has always put me off goal setting and doubt all the worthy authors I was reading, was the way the organizations I’ve worked for have basically abused goal setting. Annual performance reviews, or appraisals, were rounded off with the ritual of setting objectives (goals) for the year ahead. These were invariably generated by the manager, rather than employee. Worst of all, these goals were never looked at again until the following years review!
To be effective, goals have to be alive, things that inspire and drive you. Trying to force yourself to do goals you don’t want to do won’t work. Tibolt was convinced that
“the chief benefit of education is to help you find a worthy goal, vision or purpose in life, to give life meaning and to drive and draw you to success.”
Finding a “worth goal” shouldn’t be hard, but somehow we seem to make it so.
在前文《你有梦想么？》中我已坦言：尽管相信目标对生活的必要性毋庸赘述，我在制订及实践目标方面却极不理想。我最喜欢的书之一《与伟大亲密接触》作者Frank Tibolt 将设定目标形容为“成功完全守则之最”，可惜仅不到10%的人才晓得用它。
那么，为什么人们不制订目标呢：
闻所未闻
认为他们不需要这些
过一天算一天喽
觉得目标会叫人抓狂
以为它只适用于大忙人
没欲望
无先见之明
害怕失败
还没意识到其价值所在
不知道怎么制订
担心成功
不值得
太忙了
不想对任何人负责
不懂得自己可从目标中获益
得获得别人同意才干
我想最主要的原因可以概括为“不知道”。大多数人不知道怎样定计划，不知道它们可以如此重要如此强大。此外，一些人不清楚他们想要什么。
过去，当我描述自己如何获得当前位子时，我更多将其地归结为运气，而不是有效的计划和目标设计。是我恰好运气好呢还是因为制订目标只是对某些人真正起作用？它是否适用与受绩效鞭策的商业人士或推销员？很多人没有清晰的目标难道是因为在当今这个时代对自己期望的归宿很难有个清晰的定义：天知道5年后会怎么样？
我定目标时拖拖拉拉，对所有所读的名家心存疑虑，因为我效力的机构蔑视目标制订。年度业绩评论，已经在本年度目标制订前就完成了。这些一成不变地由经理提出，员工没份。最糟糕的是，这些目标要到下一年回顾时才会被重新考虑。
行之有效的目标必须看得见摸的着在自己能力范围之内，而那些事情能够激励你鞭策你。逼自己时间那些不愿做的目标只能是无用功。Tibolt相信"教育主要的功能是帮助你找到一项值得的目标,愿景或者生活决心,使生活变得有意义,并且成为你成功的推手."
找到一个"值得努力的目标"并不会太难,只不过有时候我们不知何故不想那么做罢了.
[责编：朱静]
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